arranged marriage is my tradition..apache indian rapped about it in the 90's and was a major hit in india..I don't know if it did any good to the institution of arranged marriage but one thing is sure even in this age arranged marriage continues to survive in India and is showing no signs of poor health, one might have believed in the 90's during the economic resurgence that by the next millennium the idea of marrying a stranger would die a silent death. The truth can't be more further than that. online matrimonial sites, ads in newspapers,crazy matrimonial reality shows for losers are living proof that the tradition of arranged marriage is alive and kicking in india.
arranged marriage has gone thro' a major overhaul over the decades. Couples marrying against their wishes are unheard of nowadays and caste and creed does'nt play a major role anymore. These prejudices were partly bred by our middle class deprivations and anxiety about family lineage and status were usually the norm. With the educated middle class coming of age the issues of castes and lineage has become notional. India still is a country where divorces and extra marital affairs are frowned upon. Young people has now realised that falling in love is easier while staying in it is the harder part. Romance is only the extension of the present with promises made towards the horizon while arrange marriage deals with the more real part that is the future. In what still is a rigidly conventional and conformist society arranged marriage has stood out of the line with its very flexible nature. Unlike the days of the yore the final say lies with the girl and the boy. Family members simply play the role of a support system to their decision.
Even tho' u can never plan everything and no one can predict the future the institution of arranged marriage offers a certain outcome if not distinct. Everything is laid bare in an arranged marriage, there's no place for assumptions and delusions here.
So go ahead with your head held high and mind without fear and keep searching for decent matches...caste no bar and family lineage be damned.
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